The way we talk to ourselves is very important.
Today I want to invite you to think for a moment about what your life is like. internal dialogue. Whether you speak to yourself in a respectful and affectionate manner, or on the contrary, whether you live in a constant state of self-pity.
The language we use in our thinking reflects our beliefs and attitudes, our way of positioning ourselves in the world. Because of its great importance, it is necessary to stop for a moment and check whether our own thoughts are consistent or not with the way we want to live.
Many people treat themselves very poorly. They use insults, constant self-reproach, or maintain a level of demand that they wouldn't expect from anyone else. To justify such mistreatment, the excuse of honesty is often used. But, as we all know, There's a big difference between being honest and being downright rude. If we don't tolerate such treatment from others, why would we treat ourselves that way?
The psychologist Guy Winch says about it:
It's always important to explore the mistakes you may have made, own up to them, take responsibility, understand what went wrong, figure out what you need to avoid or do differently next time, and be honest with yourself in that way. However, calling yourself names (disrespectful) in the process of self-examination, belittling yourself, treating yourself in a contemptuous and punitive manner, adds no value at all. Even worse, it significantly impairs your ability to learn the necessary lessons that could be gleaned from such experiences.
The first step to improving our internal dialogue is to be aware of how we talk to ourselves.
It's okay to treat yourself well.
