There’s plenty of articles and quizzes that answer the question When is it time to seek counseling?
Most of the time, all those lists about the five signs that are an obvious tell that you’ve got to start seeing a therapist or the top ten symptoms that you need help, were not needed in the first place.
The answer to our question is much simpler. In fact, I think you already know the answer:
Most likely, if you’ve already contemplated seeking psychological counseling, it’s because you know that it would benefit you to receive it.
There can be a lot of reasons to look for counseling, but generally speaking, if you feel that there’s something you want to change about yourself (thoughts, beliefs, and emotions), and you don’t know how to do it, psychological counseling is a solid option.
It may also happen that, something you can’t really define, bothers you. That kind of general discomfort acts like a compass, showing you that counseling may be a good idea.
Yes. Taking that first step and scheduling an appointment can be hard.
However, it’s important to remember that asking for help it’s not a sign of weakness; on the contrary, taking responsibility of our own emotional wellbeing is a sign of determination. Determination to live in an intentional way and in agreement with our own selves. In other words, starting a psychological counseling process is to actively seek oneself.
Sometimes we mistakenly believe that the best way to deal with emotional discomfort it to ignore it. However, this can be counterproductive and we can end up feeling alone; like we’re carrying a load much heavier than we can take. Reaching out to a professional can help you to diminish that load, to manage the weight.
Psychologists are only for crazy people…
I’m sure you’ve heard this (fortunately) old-fashioned statement.
Much has been fought in the field of mental health to leave behind the false belief that only people with serious mental problems are those who visit a psychologist.
Psychology is interested in all human behavior and thinking processes. Many people could benefit from the guidance of a professional who offers an attentive and empathetic listening to those who confide their problems.
Psychologist and author Guy Wench puts it clearly:
“You put a bandage on a cut or take antibiotics to treat an infection, right? No questions asked. In fact, questions would be asked if you didn’t apply first aid when necessary. So why isn’t the same true of our mental health?”
There’s no set rules when it comes to seeking psychological or emotional counseling.
I encourage you to look inwards… you’ve already got the answer.